Five Tips for Happier Living from Liza

It’s been a while since we posted one of the elders “Lists for Living.” We love these organized lists, in which some of the list for livingLegacy Project elders were able to sum up a lifetime of wisdom in a few key points. Liza, 68, has some thought-provoking ideas for living the good life:

1. You will NOT experience regret over a decision to remain single and childless. Creating your own life can be as exciting as the predictable stresses (and even the joys) of the procreation and education of progeny.

2. Friendships should fit your emotional and intellectual needs. You should have many different kinds of friends – never depend upon just one or two. Understand that you, and thus your friends, should be expected to change over time. Llife is far richer if you vary the nature of your relationships – it is stifling to hitch yourself to/depend upon/share experiences with only one other person.

3. Always take advantage of an opportunity to have new experiences – travel, activities or in the realm of ideas. You learn as much from unpleasant experiences as you do from pleasureable ones.

4. Strive throughout your life to achieve a clear sense of who you are, what you want, what you want to be recalling as you die, and how you wish to be remembered.

5. Devote as much time as possible toward understanding the evolution and history of the universe and of humankind This long-range perspective makes you grateful and more generous.

2 thoughts on “Five Tips for Happier Living from Liza

  1. Liza: Thankyou for your list. Having read it several times I find I agree with every point. I have come to similar conclusions and find the confirmation of these ideas very reassuring at this stage of my life. I feel strongly about being independent and having a life of my own and contributing to humanity in ways outside a conventional marriage. It’s not so easy to find many that agree so I really appreciate coming across your words. Although at 26 I haven’t ruled out having children (and I get annoyed with the amount of time my brain seems to want to spend on that question) I am certain I want to throw myself into an alternative project first.

    If you are out there, and it is possible, I wonder if you would be willing to correspond further?

  2. Dear Lucy,

    Thanks so much for your comment! I, too, found this list for living to be one of the most powerful from the elders.

    I wanted to answer your last question. It’s not possible to contact one of the elders in our study individually. Because in most cases people were promised anonymity, the names provided with the lessons are pseudonyms, rather than actual names (as described on the Methods page on the blog. And in some cases (when lessons were provided, for example, in letters sent to us) we have no way of contacting the elder.

    However, some of our readers may have ideas for you – so perhaps we can get some elder wisdom discussion going here!

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