Honesty and Trust: A WW II Veteran’s Lesson for Living

Like many others, we at the Legacy Project have been following the D-Day commemorations. In my book 30 Lessons for Living, I was privileged to interview many members of the War and Crisis Generation, capturing their wisdom before they left us (only a few WW II veterans are still alive).

If there is one lesson for a good life that nearly all of  the Legacy Project elders agree on, it’s  honesty. This may be worded in different ways: being truthful, being a person of trust, or having integrity. But it shines above all others in the advice elders give about core values.

And this isn’t just some hollow platitude. The elders believe that honesty is not a lofty ideal; rather, it’s a daily practice that is highly beneficial for every individual.

Max, age 95, passionately summed up this lesson and how he learned it:

 My father died when I was 12, and my mother appointed me head of the household. After my freshman year in college (1942-43), I was drafted into the Army. In World War II, I was a combat medic attached to infantry in the 95th Infantry Division of General Patton’s 3rd Army. In December of 1944, I was wounded by a German machine gunner while I was trying to rescue a fallen comrade. Gas gangrene cost me my left arm for which I have worn a prosthesis ever since. After honorable discharge, rank of PFC, I completed my undergraduate education in biology and then got a Master’s Degree. My career, influenced by the War, was as a high school teacher of biology and English.

As a fatherless boy I soon learned to be skeptical of authority, institutional and religious. However, I realized intensely – and still do – that trust is the most valuable bond that keeps us civil and loving. Cheating and lying, of every kind—in school work, business, friendships, sex, marriage, parenthood, social contracts, just as examples—weaken that bond.

Just think of what a dissolving marriage does to the sense of trust children have in their parents! Just think of what a dreadful toll the failure of trust in our current federal administration is taking on us as a people and on our international relations! Just think of what casual sex has done to the bonds of trust and love! Trust keeps us together in marriage, as families, as social groups, in business negotiations, as a nation. Betray that for personal gain or pleasure and you lose more than your integrity; you weaken the fabric of society.

3 thoughts on “Honesty and Trust: A WW II Veteran’s Lesson for Living

  1. Excellent comments our society could go a long way if we lived by these words . Also Max thank you for your service to our great country ,Pat.

  2. I have been following the Legacy Project by email and I have posted a link to the website on my blog.
    I am so greatly encouraged by all the words of wisdom from the elders that I did about two or three posts on the topic on my blog.

    Today’s advice about TRUST from Max was just pure treasure. Very well said Max. If we have no trust we have nothing that is of any real value.

  3. “Just think of what casual sex has done to the bonds of trust and love!”

    What, I wonder, does Max imagine casual sex to have done to the bonds of trust and love, beyond

    1) teaching people to distinguish between casual sex and the bonds of trust and love, and to develop an understanding of why they might prefer the latter to the former, and

    2) leading many people straight into those bonds?

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