The Guilt is Gone

Paul, 71, believes we’re too hard on ourselves when it comes to regrets:

What I know now is I made some mistakes in life, I have some regrets.  I think we all do.  But I’ve learned as I get older. I’ve identified things that I feel as though I did wrong.  I feel bad them, but I don’t hold myself responsible at this point in time.  I’m a different person now.  And to know that I erred in certain ways and I feel sad about it is enough for me.  The guilt is gone. 

4 thoughts on “The Guilt is Gone

  1. I have many regrets in my life. I am 48yo and divorced. My Ex-wife and I have raised wonderful children and now they have children of thier own. However; I have anxiety attacks due to these regrets I harbor. I have no control over them when they overtake my mind and emotions.
    My question is: ” How do I get past these regrets and guilt of my past and move on to live for the future ?”
    Thanks in advance ‘

  2. Regrets are so hard to deal with. “If only…. ” is something that I can’t seem to stop myself from thinking of. It’s so easy for other people to give advice when they have found a way to get over their regrets. But it’s harder for some of us to do. What works for me, once in a while, is when I think about the choices I made that actually turned out okay. I try to focus on a time that I had several paths presented to me and I took the right one. That seems to be the only way I am able to get over some of the things I did or didn’t do and choices I made or didn’t make. I don’t think the guilt ever goes away, it just gets dimmer in my memory.

  3. Hi Scott! I felt I must answer the post you had on ” The Guilt Is Gone”

    We all have guilt and regrets. not one has lived this perfect life and if anyone says they have then they have too much “pride” so it sounds. The hardest thing when we do know we have regrets is to forgive ourselves knowing that God ( if Christian) forgives us once we ask, as He never lies.
    If we ask forgiveness of people and they reject it, this must be then “their problem” not ours as we did what we could to try to make it right. We must move along and do our best learning from that experience and allowing things to work out as it should.I know you may be thinking this sounds easy but>>If it does not work right a way just keep telling yourself you are forgiven and you have made mistakes as all have and now you can move on knowing better how to try to not do the same. If you have been hurt by someone or more than one, send forgiveness and love even when you are upset by them. In time it will get easier and you will break through this grief I think you now feel. Sometimes a Support group helps also.
    I am not an expert on this subject, just someone who battles with the same, and is dealing in this way and it does work. Love and joy and peace for you always!!!

  4. Must look at all the things during my life I have done well, and focus more on that then the things that have not gone well or the losses. Helping to look to the future.

    Cannot remember the name of this poem or exactly how it goes but perhaps you will after reading what I will try to post?

    “Look to today, for today is life
    the very life of life

    For tomorrow is only a vision ; and tomorrow a dream

    But today well lived
    makes every yesterday a dream of happiness, and every tomorrow a vision of hope”

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